Temitope Ayefele, mum of triplets who is happily married to Famous Singer and Broadcaster Yinka Ayefele has prayed that the holyghost fire will come down upon any female fan that tries to get too close to her husband.
In a recent chat with PUNCH, Temitope Ayefele when asked how she copes with her husband’s many female fans, said
“They are welcome to be his fans and they can also admire him. My husband is a very good looking man; a super star and hard-working person. They can like and admire him though from a distance because if you come too close they will be burnt by the ‘fire of the Holy Ghost’.
My husband looks good and nice all the time and that has cost me a lot of time and affection. But on a lighter note, I have never been bothered about my husband’s so-called admirers. I love and respect his fans. I did not marry anybody’s husband. I married the husband of my youth, and God has lightened my path all the way”
“I love fame and glamour but we decided to separate our lives from the public glare. My husband is always out there working. He is the one representing the family. I always enjoy watching him out there, giving his best. I am not a shy person but both of us cannot be out there. It would affect our home, so we decided not to make our private lives public….
We attend some events together if I am around and am invited. But most times, he goes to events to work— singing for people— and I can’t be following him around while he’s doing his job. If he is not the one performing at the event and the invitation is for the two of us, we would attend together.”
Opening up on how romantic Yinka Ayefele is, she said “You know my husband is an Ekiti man. He is romantic and I have also taught him how to be romantic. To be honest, he is really trying and I always appreciate him for his efforts. He frequently calls to check on me when he is not at home. He buys things for me, even if there is nothing to celebrate. On every Valentine’s Day, he surprises me. Also, my birthdays are always different every year. There are so many sweet things he does to make me happy.
I don’t discuss my husband with anyone and I don’t give room to anyone to advise me about my husband. Many people call me ‘Ruth abokoku’ (a woman who is ready to follow her husband to the grave). I see marriage as being ‘for better, for worse’. When it is ‘better’, one would enjoy and when it is ‘worse’, one would have to endure and pray to God.”
Reflecting on the birth of their triplets after waiting for 20 years after marriage, Temtiope said “The birth of my triplets is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I might not have the right word to describe how grateful and blessed I am. That was something I had been aspiring to have for more than 20 years. I prayed that even if I could get just one child, I would be glad. I begged God that I had been waiting for so long, so He should give me an extraordinary miracle. And, God did just that. It was an awesome experience and I am still not out of the blues yet. Whenever I see my triplets, I believe that I am highly favoured by God.
Yes, I did IVF and I had been doing it since 2003. I would not use the word ‘desperate’ but rather say women who are ‘aspiring’ to have children. If one is desperate to have children, one would do unthinkable things that one could regret later. But, when one is aspiring for a thing, one would take the right steps and leave the rest to God. Even if one conceives through IVF, it is God that made it possible. IVF treatments are not pleasant. They would drain one emotionally, financially and psychologically. I was through it several times, both in Nigeria and abroad, and God decided to put a smile on my face.
To women out there, people look at those of us that could not have children immediately after marriage as if we had messed up our lives or that we don’t know what we are doing. I would advise you to be optimistic that you would have your children at the appointed time. You should also wait on the Lord for directions.”